Build a Strong Foundation - Video

Increase Your Desire

Creating a burning need is the process of creating a desire to accomplish a goal that is so potent inside of you, that you actually need to accomplish the goal, otherwise you will become severely depressed and perish. It is a tool that will help you to persist, it will help you to move forward, it will help you get an edge over others who don’t have a burning need, it will help you to get more power and love and ultimately, it will help you to feel excellent. So how do you create a burning need? Well here are some tools to help you out:

Set an Outrageously High Goal for Yourself

This can also be setting an outrageously high life purpose for yourself. Choose a goal that you would like to accomplish so much, that you won’t stop pursuing it until you die. Choose a goal that you would spend a whole lifetime full of pain in order to accomplish it, if that’s what it took.

Find Things to Push Against

Have things to push against, use competition and compete against other people or groups of people in order to motivate you even further. You can also push against an idea, or a mindset held by certain groups of people. Fight for your right to party, but for the sake of your reputation and, god no: political correctness, you should generally keep the information about who you are pushing against to yourself.

Delay Gratification

Deprive yourself of things you want until you have achieved your goal. I do this with CD’s, DVD’s and new technology items that aren’t completely necessary. I also limit my social interaction and general entertainment until I have been productive for a certain amount of time or until a task is completed.

Imagine Success

Imagine what it will be like (and feel like) to have already achieved your goal, and then notice the contrast between where you are, and where you want to be. I like to watch a mind movie every morning that I have made with Windows Movie Maker, that includes pictures of what I want, affirmations such as “Thank You for My Children”, and all of this while one of my favorite songs is playing (Hanz Zimmer’s “Now We Are Free” from the Gladiator soundtrack). This is very motivational for me.

Surround Yourself with Encouragement

Surround yourself with encouraging people, feed your mind with encouraging information, and only allow encouraging things into your life and into your mind. I like to put up pictures in my work space of my hero’s (currently Howard Hughes, Tom Cruise and Napoleon Bonaparte). They motivate me and keep me on track. Read only encouraging books, and stop reading if you begin to feel bad or depressed when reading a book or watching a movie.

Make a Decision

Often, simply just making a decision is enough to boost you forward. When you make a decision, your mind seems to make a change and say to itself: “Oh! We’re moving ahead, this is exiting!” So whenever you feel a bit depressed or unmotivated, find out what decision you need to make. I’ve found various decisions I’ve made in my life to be very motivational, even if they were pretty small and inconsequential in the long term. Some examples are: Getting a hair cut, buying new clothes, making a change in my morning or evening ritual, deciding to read a new book or breaking off or starting a new relationship. Whatever the decision you make is, it isn’t as important as just making a decision to do something new and create change and movement in your life.

Now go out there and cultivate that burning need inside of you and make your success inevitable!

Increase Your Faith

Creating faith in yourself means believing that what you want to achieve is possible and that you are even destined to make it happen. If you don’t have faith that you can be, do or have something then your subconscious mind will think “Why even bother trying?” and it will sabotage you every step of the way. Having faith will keep you going through the hard times.

So how do you create faith in yourself? Here are some techniques:

Replace Limiting Beliefs

One of the most common blocks for achieving your goal is not believing that you can achieve it. This is the most basic of your limiting beliefs and the first one that you should override if you really do want to achieve your goal. Now, the way your mind is set up is that a limiting belief cannot actually be detonated, but it must be removed through death by lack of use. Your beliefs and habits are like a forest trail and the more you use that trail, the more the debris on the trail will clear away and the trail will become hard and worn from your feet pounding on it. When you stop using that trail, the brush will eventually grow back and the trail will begin to look just like the rest of the forest. Therefore, the best way to get rid of an old limiting belief is just to quit using it and instead use a new belief that you created. This is called a positive belief. Say you had an old belief that it wasn’t possible for you to beat your grandma at chess because of all of the times she beat you (I hope you weren’t abused by your grandma by the way), but if you recognize that you have this belief, you can then create a new belief that you CAN beat your grandma at chess. The more you repeat this belief to yourself, the more you will begin to clear this new trail. This will then motivate you to become better at chess and make your new belief a reality.

Imagine Success

Imagine what it will look like and feel like to have already accomplished your goal. Make it like a movie in your mind with you as the main character. Feel what it will feel like, smell what it will smell like, see what it will look like, hear what it will sound like and taste what it will taste like. This will help you to believe that what you want is possible and it will then begin to stimulate your mind to ask questions, and think of things that may need to happen in order for you to actually achieve this goal.

Surround Yourself with Positive Expectation

Don’t let anything into your reality that suggests that you may not be able to achieve your goal. By definition, if you have nothing that can make it so that you can’t achieve your goal, then nothing stands in your way and so you have a clear path to success. Of course, there may actually be blocks that you need to take care of in your path to achieving your goal, but those are still possible to remove or go around. Don’t let anything into your reality that says that you can’t achieve your goal, period. Where there is a will, there is a way, and there is almost no goal that more, or a higher level of creativity can’t overcome.

Expect to Succeed

The next step up from having faith, is actually expecting to succeed. Positive expectation will open doors for you because when others see that you expect to succeed, they are more likely to help you on your way up (if it benefits them). However, be careful of showing others your positive expectation if they may not want you to achieve your goal. They will most likely try to sabotage you. Keep your positive expectation inside and it will be a boost to your motivation.

Trust Your Genes

You were given genes from your mother and father at birth and your mother and father were given genes from each of their mothers and fathers on down the line until the original bacteria ancestor. You were given these powerful genes that have withstood the test of time and you need to trust these genes and trust that they know what’s best for you (after all, they have been “living life” for the past 4 billion years). Imagine that your genes are carrying you on this journey and that you are going to succeed whether your mind wants you to or not, because that is what your genes want and they have the true power.

Believe that it Works

When you are using a technique to solve a problem in your life, most of the time, it doesn’t always matter if the technique works or not, but believing that it does work will push you forward. Believing that the technique you are trying out works will give you a motivation, boldness and confidence that will probably be even more beneficial to you than actually using the technique to accomplish your goal. This means that as long as you are always experimenting and trying something new, you will constantly be refilling the confidence, boldness and motivation in yourself to keep moving higher. Even if you are using the most powerful techniques known to man, you will still benefit even more by truly believing that those techniques work, and giving yourself the extra boost that come along with that belief. Believe that it works and it will.

Now go out and try these techniques and let me know how they work out for you!

© 2008 Broderick Boyd, but share as much as you like!

How to Give Them What They Need

All honorable accumulation of power and love is based upon the principle of providing power and love to others, and receiving power and love in return. You must give before you can expect to receive, because a wood stove will never give you any heat until you at least put some wood into it first. As Robert Kiyosaki says in his book Rich Dad Poor Dad, “you must give whatever you wish to receive.” Give a smile, and you get a smile, give a slap in the face, and you get a slap in the face. When you give to others, they are in turn compelled to give back to you.

So how do you give them what they need? Here are some techniques:

Discover What They Need

Who is your target? Is it a group of people or a single person? If it is a group of people, try to get a sense of what elements they share in common. Either way, once you have chosen your target, figure out how they think and feel on a regular basis. What emotions do they regularly feel? What triggers these emotions? Put yourself in their shoes and observe and listen to them closely. This will help to give you a better sense of what they need. They may have a frustration or a problem that you can solve for them. They could just have a need that isn’t being sufficiently fulfilled. They could also have a goal that they would like to accomplish that you can help them out with. Figure out what it is that they need, and then get to work on finding out how you can fulfill that need.

Use Your Unique Abilities

We live in a world that is increasingly requiring more specialization and the more you can excel at what you’re naturally good at, the better. Some people like to call your unique abilities your “strengths” or your “natural talents”. Whatever you choose to call them, you need to find out what they are and then use them to give others what they need. Focus on using only your unique abilities to give them what they need, as opposed to doing things that you’re not really naturally good at, because using only your unique abilities will cause you to further develop these natural skills, and you will become even more valuable to the world because of your specialization.

Example - My Old Boss

I once had a boss I worked for who did not come across to me as very confident or secure. We had a friendly but slightly uneasy relationship in the beginning and I was never quite sure if he was satisfied with me or not as his employee. This had begun to make me a bit insecure about my work (I had been fired from a previous job for not showing up). I had recently thought about this concept of giving them what they need, and decided to apply it to my situation with my boss. I began by asking myself “What does he need?” It took me a while to figure it out, but eventually I came to the conclusion that he needed more respect and affirmation of his power. I then began to show him more respect in the way I interacted with him and our relationship improved dramatically. My boss began to treat me better than any of his other employees and he also began to honor almost every request I made regarding my work.

Now go out there and give, give, give!

Imagine Your Destiny

Imagining destiny is the process of picturing in your mind what it will look like, feel like, smell like, sound like and taste like when your goals or desires are accomplished. Fulfilling your purpose is your destiny and imagining what this will look like will help you to actually make it happen because your mind will form plans and beliefs around this vision to make it a reality.

So how can you imagine destiny more effectively? Here are some techniques:

Know What You Want

It’s important to at least have an idea of what you want so that you can imagine it in your mind. Clarify this by asking yourself questions such as: “What do I want?” “What is my purpose” and “What is my destiny?”

Use All of Your Senses

Use this power effectively by imagining success with as many of your senses as possible; try to make it just like an actual experience and ask yourself: “What does success look like and feel like?” and your imagination will be activated. If you don’t feel excellent in this process then your goals are not what you really want and you need to change them to goals that will make you feel excellent when they are achieved.

Example #1 – Imagine Before a Performance

Whenever I am about do some kind of performance, such as an audition or a speech, I imagine in my mind what I would experience if the performance went so good that it made me feel excellent when I was doing it and when I was finished. I imagine seeing the smiling and impressed faces, I imagine getting the handshakes afterwards with them saying: “Good job Broderick; that was amazing.” I’ve realized that the more real I can make the imagined experience, and the longer I can do it, the better my actual performance is, and the better I feel after and during the actual performance.

Example #2 – Don’t Accept What You Experience as Reality

When I am bored, I ask myself: “What could I be experiencing right now that would make me feel excellent?” and my mind starts to create an alternative reality where I can own my own successful business, be the leader of an excellent group of people, or just make a new friend. The cool thing is that when I begin to imagine these alternative realities, my mind begins to give me ideas as to how I can make them possible. For example, I was imagining feeling excellent at work one time and I was imagining graduating from college and being done with all my school work. As I did this, I started realizing all of the things I could be doing now and in the future to make that happen faster and easier, such as taking more courses next term (I was planning on going part time but realized that since I have recently improved my personal productivity in various ways I could handle more) and buying my books online early to save money. These ideas came to me simply because I consciously decided to imagine feeling excellent.

Now go out there and imagine your destiny and let me know how it works for you!

© 2008 Broderick Boyd, but share as much as you like!

Secure a Stronger Foundation

Building a strong foundation means creating a strong basis for security. It is a tool that will help you to create a cushion for error against unexpected occurrences because a mountain isn’t going to be destroyed by a windstorm. It will also allow you to develop further than if you hadn’t secured a strong foundation in the beginning because you can’t build a skyscraper on a 3 inch slab of concrete. No, a skyscraper is built by first digging deep into the earth and the deeper and wider the foundation of the skyscraper, the taller and wider the skyscraper can be when it is finished. Always remember that success built on a strong foundation is the only success that lasts.

So how do you build a strong foundation? Here are some techniques:

Master the Basics First

Whenever you are attempting to master a new skill, seek to master the basics before mastering the more complex and advanced techniques. When you attempt to use the fancy techniques that the pro’s use in any given skill when you are first starting out, your foundation is weak and you will inevitably fall on your face. Practice the basics and work your way up to the level of the pro’s in order to make your foundation strong.

Use, Create and Do Positive Things That Last

The more positive things that you can use, create and do that last a long time, and have a high lifetime value for you, the more you will begin to create a compounding benefit for yourself, and create exponential growth in your life. If something that you use, create or do only has a short term benefit for you, then it won’t be there to help you in the long term. When you use, create, or do something that will help you for a long time, it will be there for you in the future to keep you supported and on your feet. This also applies to the intangible principles and techniques that you learn and use. In general, seek to use principles and techniques that are tried and true and that you may personally know to be effective. Study the people you want to become like and find out the principles and techniques that they use. Of course, always be open to try something new and experiment. An example of doing a positive thing that lasts, is to get corrective eye surgery if you have bad eyesight. This is something I have done and which I know can be expensive, but you have to factor into you decision all of the hassle of wearing glasses or contact lenses every day if you will wear them for the rest of your life. If you don’t care about the energy and money wasted using glasses and contact lenses (not to mention that you can lose them) then at least consider the loss of your valuable time in doing so.

Secure One Thing at a Time

If you try to secure too many things at once, then just like juggling too many bowling pins, you will probably end up dropping them all and getting nowhere. The best way, and the most secure way for your long term benefit, is to attempt to secure one thing at a time and focus all your energy on that one task to completion. Multi-tasking can be very inefficient, both mentally and physically, and the best thing you can do is to focus on one thing at a time, and drive each task to completion. If you don’t agree with this view on multi-tasking, read the article here that describes how the Institute of Psychiatry at King’s college London found that that multitasking may be worse for your ability to concentrate than smoking marijuana.

Simplify

Your foundation doesn’t have to be a huge complex mess. It should be simple, like the ancient pyramids, and built on solid benefits that you have secured in your life. An example of this, is mastering a valuable and rare skill that others will pay you for, or obtaining an asset that will give value to you on a regular basis. The more complex your foundation, the more likely you are to lose understanding and control of how all of the parts work together, and like an apartment complex built out of cards, the whole thing will eventually come crashing down.

Create Safety Nets

Create security and a cushion for error, by creating safety nets to catch you if you fall. You probably have heard the sage advice; “expect the good but prepare for the bad” and “better safe than sorry.” Heed this wise advice and secure what you already have. An example of creating a safety net is to get health insurance to protect you financially from disease or physical injury, and to get home insurance to protect you financially from a fire or a space ship falling into your house. Learn how to defend yourself physically, and carry a self defense device, such as pepper spray, to protect you or your loved ones at all times. Secure your home by keeping your doors and windows locked at all times or install a home security system and install and regularly test fire alarms in at least every floor of your home. Finally, keep a reasonable storage of food, water and blankets in your home in case of natural disaster or other emergency. Prevention is always the first thing you should focus on, but after you have prevention taken care of, put the safety nets in place.

Use Tools Rather than Machines

If a piece of a machine breaks, the whole machine can be rendered ineffective, but if you are using tools, if one tool doesn’t work, then you just find another tool and use it. In general, tools can be much more efficient and effective to use in order to solve your problems or achieve your goals. I have designed these principles that I am teaching you now with this concept in mind. Each technique is primarily designed to be used as a tool, because circumstances change and having tools, as opposed to set formulas (intangible machines) and knowing how to use them, will help you to build a strong mental foundation.

Here are some techniques that I use or have used effectively to build a strong foundation for my health, my finances and my dating and social life:

Example #1 - Build a Strong Foundation for Your Health

Build a strong foundation for your health by eating as high a percentage of raw and organic foods as possible, and drinking as much purified water as possible. Eat what sounds good to you and eat when you are hungry and drink when you are thirsty. Brush your teeth every morning and brush your teeth and floss every night to help protect your gums from gingivitis. Every morning, drink green tea with vitamin C, eat a healthy breakfast, such as low fat vanilla flavored yogurt with berries and exercise for at least 10 minutes of aerobic and strength exercises. I regularly use these techniques and I haven’t been sick in almost 3 years.

Example #2 - Build a Strong Foundation for Your Finances

Build a strong foundation for your finances by reducing your expenses (buy in bulk, reduce consumption, live modestly, ride a bicycle or electric vehicle when possible, use the library or internet primarily for your information consumption etc.) increase your income (become more valuable, master a rare and valuable skill, give them what they need using your unique abilities etc.) and finally invest in or create assets that either put money in your pocket on a regular basis, or appreciate in value (rare metals, stocks, antiques, real estate etc.).

Example #3 - Build a Strong Foundation for Your Dating and Social Life

Build a strong foundation for your dating and social life by going out and meeting new people on a regular basis. Just show up to social events (like dances) where you know you will be forced to interact with people. I personally prefer ballroom dances and ballroom dance lessons, where partners rotate and you get introduced to a new partner every couple of minutes. This is a great way to practice your social skills, create a connection and build a relationship. At a social event, you can even just walk up to friendly looking people and ask them “How’s it going?” to jumpstart a great conversation. Of course, don’t do anything that doesn’t feel right to you and help you to feel excellent. Just let go, loosen up and have fun. As Tony Robbins says, “Repetition is the mother of skill.”

Now go out and build a strong foundation for your guaranteed success!