Hi there :)
So to start out, my story is that I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years about a month ago. The breakup has been very hard on me, but it wasn't until about 2 days ago that I realized the the reason I was feeling so much pain wasn't me or her so much or even the breakup, but the fact that I had never felt this kind of grief or guilt before and I wasn't sure on how to handle these emotions.
I believe that I was resisting feeling a lot of the emotions that came up for me. I finally had one of my lowest points yesterday morning and that is when I had the breakthrough. I was listening to an audiobook called "The Missing Secret" by Joe Vitale while I was working, and at the end someone gave 17 techniques for "emotional clearing". Wow, they really helped me out. I was feeling about a 9 out of 10 as far as emotional pain when I started, and ended up with about a 3 out of 10 when I was finished. The techniques consisted of various visualization techniques involving your emotions, labeling them, rating them on a scale of 1 to 10, visualizing them, their color and their shape, location etc. They also talked about appreciating your emotions, loving them for their ability to help you and to keep you from making mistakes in the future, and also letting yourself feel the emotions and not resisting them at all. Before this I had also been working on emotional control techniques and have found the whole process to be extremely beneficial.
So my question is, do you have any emotional control techniques, concepts or recommendations? I have started reading Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman and doing research on the internet. If you have any thoughts to discuss, please reply below and lets work on this together :)
Thanks,
Brody
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